Of September 11th, Business, and Team Building... Keeping What We Do in Perspective

It's September 10th and there I am again, drivingthe sayings placed under old glory on the
North on the New Jersey Turnpike towardsoverpasses. My favorite one reads America,
Kenilworth (this time). This is the first day of eightDiverse and Free. I think about how important it is
over the next three weeks at a company in thisfor everyone to constantly remember that.
town off exit 11 and up the Garden StateAmerica really is a Team, made up of all kinds of
Parkway, interspersed with a couple days inpeople. That's one of the things that makes us so
Maryland, two in Connecticut and one instrong and makes so many people outside and
Manhattan. Three weeks of constantly being oninside our country so envious.The seminar the
the go, being busy conducting seminars andnext day brings those points to fore. What better
consulting.Team Building is the topic for this day,example of Team Building? Instantaneously we've
with four more to follow. How to build effectivebecome a Team. Things go well under the
and efficient teams, communicate better, knowcircumstances that day and the next. The
your and your team members' strengths andAmerican Team Building has even spread to the
weaknesses, delegate, motivate and of courseGarden State Parkway on the 13th where
have some fun along the way.What a great groupmotorists have pulled over, gotten out of their
of folks they are, a dozen in the morning classcars and stand next to their vehicles holding
and the same for the afternoon session. I leavecandles. It continues for miles. I leave North
at around 5:30 to head home to Philly. On theJersey after more Team Building Sessions on the
road I'm mentally figuring out how much time I14th.The next week the haze remains to some
have to eat, make my calls, spend some timedegree. More Kenilworth Monday and Tuesday. I
with my son maybe talking, just relaxing and ormust say I really like the people I'm working with.
watching sports before going off to sleep.They seem to realize their team building needs
Tomorrow is a special day. September 11th andquite clearly and are already using some of the
I'm to meet my clients Paul and Lynn in Trentontechniques to bring about change.Thursday and
at 7:30 A.M. to catch the train to Manhattan.Friday I'm in Maryland. Thursday night I go to
We have a day of meetings scheduled and asleep around 10:30. The workshop I'm doing starts
"surprise" Birthday Party in the evening.Theearly. Somehow I hit the pillow and I'm out, sound
party's for me, Paul had arranged it and evenasleep until a blast wakes me up at who knows
called people on his speakerphone while I was inwhat time. I jump out of bed open the curtain
his office to say "Are you coming to Dan'slook outside to hear sirens and see flashes of light.
surprise party on the 11th?" And we'd all laugh.My hand reaches for the remote, I turn on the
September 11th is my Birthday. I can't calculateTV to see what has happened and there's no
how many times I've told people, "Do you knowsignal. How my reference points have changed.
how much money I had to spend to get myTwo weeks before I would have known it was
birthday on all those Police Cars! 911....it wasn'tthunder and lightening, now I'm not sure if it's
easy"?Paul calls late and leaves me a message.another attack. I figure if it is they'll come and get
"There's a change of plans, we're gonna take theme, if not I might as well make an attempt at
eight twenty-five (or the train around that time)".more sleep.At the Seminar I ask how many folks
I call him. I don't think he's feeling too well, maybeheard the thunder and how many of them
he wants to get a few extra minutes of sleep inthought that it was another attack. More than half
the A.M. "Check in with me in the morning" hethe hands go up. Most of the rest slept through
says. Five forty is my call into Paul. "Dan I thinkthe noise.The next week takes me back up to
we can take the 10:35, I just wanna lay in bed forNorth Jersey again and Connecticut. The drive to
a bit, but we're definitely going, see you at theConnecticut is strange. I leave Philly a little after
station".So I eat my breakfast, take my shower5:00 PM. I get on the Jersey Turnpike and take
and get all my "stuff" in order.Now it's a fewexit 13 Elizabeth.In order to circumvent Manhattan
minutes after nine and the phone rings, it's myI go through Staten Island, Brooklyn, Queens and
friend. He asks if I'm still going to Manhattan. I givethe Bronx on route 278. It gives me an incredible
him an affirmative and he says, "Oh no you'review of the Manhattan skyline. It's so beautiful and
not, turn on the TV".I press the on button andmajestic. I have time. The Battery Tunnel is
there it is. I'm numb, frozen, in disbelief. Can thisclosed. Traffic backs up and I look at the City
really be happening? I attempt to think, butwhile listening to NPR on my radio. Then I see it.
disorganization gets thrown into the mix.The smoke is still there. The haze remains, not
Sometimes I'm fully cognizant of what I'm doingjust in my thoughts but in the skyline. Those
and other times I have to think and rethink tobuildings that I ALWAYS looked for, the ones that
make sure that I'm comprehending even thesignified that I was close to my destination were
"normal" things away from the commentary andgone. All I could see were those other buildings,
pictures on CNN.The calls go out, to my son, Paul,ones that have become familiar to me only
other family members and friends to see ifthrough TV, the ones with the greenish domes
everyone's ok. And to tell them that I didn't go.Ithat formerly were dwarfed by their neighbors,
speak with Anne Marie who works in Manhattan.Tower One and Tower Two.On my way home
She was supposed to attend the dinner party.to Philly I thought about business and how those
She tells me that a mutual friend, who she workstwo towers had, to some degree, symbolized the
with, had just dropped off a package to hismotors of commerce and how their demise had
roommate on the 102nd floor of Tower One,slowed it down. I counted a scant eleven airplanes
taken the elevator down and reached the lobbyfrom central Connecticut to New York City.
when the plane hit. He's fine but he doesn't knowEleven. How unreal.
where his roommate is.The party, the meetings,Then I realized that those eleven planes were
the business seems oddly meaningless andmore than I had seen in the sky in quite some
meaningful at the same time. How nice it wouldtime.
be to have the party, sit in a meeting and do theWe'll make it I thought. A little more cautiously on
business of business. And how absurd it all seemsone hand and a lot more determined on the other
at this time of tragedy.The day passes painfully,but we'll make it.Connecticut, Maryland and North
my birthday will mean something so different toJersey are, for now, behind me.Three weeks of
me and everyone else from here on out.I try tolife (and counting) filled with extreme emotions
call the Red Cross to give blood but all the linesand the everyday chores we may treasure
are busy. Finally I get through and they tell mesomewhat differently.It may be me but I get the
that there's a blood drive being held in Flourtownfeeling that people are driving differently since the
(my Flourtown) tomorrow starting at 2:00. Noeleventh, I would even say more courteous. We
appointments will be taken.The 12th is more ofseem to be a bit more grounded. Is it that we've
the same, everything to do with business isbeen hugging our kids more often, understanding
cancelled and who would want to do anythingeach others' strengths and weaknesses with
anyway. I wonder about my friends in NYC and inmore tolerance, perhaps even putting our priorities
North Jersey and hope everyone is ok.I walkin order.What does this mean for business?I hope
down the block and there, a few houses away isit means a richer, slower more invigorating
a makeshift shrine on the steps of a neighbor.business climate. One that appreciates everyone
Five or six candles and two photos, one of theand everything that makes our businesses work.
photos is on a piece paper that looked so muchIt may mean that we have to look around at the
like the photos I've begun to see on TV, held byfolks we work with and tell them how much we
distraught relatives and friends. Missing 102ndenjoy seeing them each day, yeah, even those
floor, Tower One (the same tower and floor ofwho used to annoy us. And perhaps it would help
my friend's roommate), followed by his name andto smile at the people who pass us by each day,
the picture of a man smiling. How sad. What dosay thanks to all of those who clean our streets,
you do? Or Think? Or say? My mind still shiftspick up our trash, deliver our mail, put out our
between thinking straight and the haze that sofires, protect our safety, check us out at the
many people continue to say appears from timesupermarket and sit in the offices and cubicles
to time in their thoughts.I get to the blood drivearound us.Maybe it really is time to put our
at 1:50 P.M. there are about forty people waiting.business lives in perspective. Have more fun.
And the line continues to get longer. The dayTreat people with added respect. Continue the
proceeds, I wait, and the realization hits me that Icapitalist pursuit with a little smile.Maybe it's time
have to go back up to North Jersey the nextto think about this amazing Team we've built and
morning. At 7:25 P.M. I've been thanked, my bloodbe thankful.Dan Goldberg, MBA, is President of
has been given and I head home. The TeamDan Goldberg Consulting L.L.C. a training, coaching
Building Seminar Series is to continue in theand business development firm located in the
morning.Team Building has come to America in aPhiladelphia, PA area. He is the founder and former
manner that theory, academic exercises orowner of "For Eyes" the highly successful
lecture can only reinforce in a seminar. We'veinternational optical company and an internationally
illustrated it by our actions. The firefighters, policerecognized keynote speaker. Dan is the author of
officers, emergency workers, and "civilians" havethe book "Stand Back A Second, Just don't fall
reacted in a way that shows the best inoff the edge," and of "The Six Steps To Solid
people.Everyone is helping and supporting, givingSales Success" and "The Seven Elements Of
money and or blood, sending supplies, performingSuccessful Management" programs. He is
tasks that must be done in order to make thingsExecutive-In-Residence at Kutztown University
move somewhat smoothly in what otherwiseand has been the subject of stories in
would be a totally chaotic situation. And we do it.Newsweek, Business Week, Playboy, Successful
From psychological help to just talking with eachBusiness, Investor's Business Daily, major
other. We somehow realize that we need onenewspapers in New York, Philadelphia, Washington,
another.Then there are the flags. More than I'veD.C., Boston, Baltimore, Miami, San Francisco,
ever seen. I wonder how many are displayed outOakland, St. Louis, Chicago, Los Angeles and many
of respect, how many out of real patriotism andother national and local publications. In addition, Dan
how many out of jingoism. I hope the formerhas appeared on Good Morning America and other
two far out weight the third. I glance up to readnational and local television and radio programs.