Can You Trust In Others Ability To Trust You?

Trustworthiness increases when we are bigexecutives said that integrity was the quality
enough to own up to our mistakes andmost needed to succeed in business.
weaknesses. People can forgive weakness, butIt is wise to avoid even the appearance of
they won't be as quick to forgive cover-ups.anything one may consider as immoral or as a
Oftentimes, if a salesperson is open about abreach of integrity. It is human nature for people
weakness or drawback in a particular product, heto cast sweeping judgments and even spread
or she still closes the deal. If you can presenttheir opinions when they don't have all the facts.
both sides of an issue, you will be consideredIf you never place yourself in a situation where
more fair and honest. Often your honesty will beone might be misled about you or your integrity,
the characteristic that wins people over. It isyour good, hard-earned reputation will never be
better to risk rejection than to hide somethingcompromised. Don't ever do the type of things
your prospect will find out later.that would make you or your family cringe to
Character is the combination of qualities thathear or read about. Striving to maintain integrity is
distinguish one person from another. Put anotherlike having a Guardian Angel. If you pay attention,
way, your character is who you are on the inside.it will keep you on track. Remember the adage of
It's the things you do if you think no one's everPhillips Brooks, a nineteenth century clergyman:
going to find out. Aristotle said, "Character may"Character is made in the small moments in our
almost be called the most effective means oflives."
persuasion." People of character have integrity,Having integrity is like having a rock solid dam.
honesty, sincerity, and maturity.People know a good, solid dam will hold and
I consider integrity to be the foundation ofprovide many benefits, such as electricity, water,
character. In the Bible, integrity refers toand recreation. If you are perceived as lacking in
individuals whose actions match the teachings andintegrity, however, it's like having holes and leaks
word of God. In his best-selling book The Sevenin your dam. When the leaks appear, everyone
Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Coveydownstream abandons their trust in the old dam
talks about how integrity is crucial to one'sand seeks higher ground. Respect is lost and they
ultimate success:place their trust in someone they believe has
If I try to use human influence strategies andgreater integrity. We can all learn from the
tactics of how to get other people to do what Iwisdom of the ancient Israelite, King Solomon. He
want, to work better, to be more motivated, tois recorded as saying, "A good name is more
like me and each other-while my character isdesirable than great riches." If owning a good
fundamentally flawed, marked by duplicity orreputation is like owning gold, then owning integrity
insincerity- then, in the long run, I cannot beis like owning the mine. Abraham Lincoln gave
successful. My duplicity will breed distrust, andanother good analogy: "Character is like a tree and
everything I do-even using so-called good humanreputation like its shadow. The shadow is what
relations techniques-will be perceived aswe think of it; the tree is the real thing."
manipulative. It simply makes no difference howHonesty in marketing sells. Companies that reveal
good the rhetoric is or even how good thea product's weaknesses are perceived as more
intentions are; if there is little or no trust, there ishonest and trustworthy. Many master marketers
no foundation for permanent success. Only basiccan turn that weakness into a positive selling point.
goodness gives life to technique.When we reveal the negatives, not only does it
Korn/Ferry and UCLA-conducted study, it wasincrease trust, but the prospect opens her mind
found that 71% of 1,300 surveyed seniorand the negatives are always accepted as truth.